Evolving Anyway 
Have you ever skipped an invitation—not because you were too busy or didn’t want to go, but simply because you didn’t feel ready? Maybe your hair wasn’t done, your clothes got smaller overnight somehow, your skin was acting up, and you have that one huge pimple. It can suddenly feel like being around people is … Read more
We always talk about toxic masculinity…and yeah, we should. That stuff is everywhere, but what about the other side? What about the way women can be toxic, too? That’s the part? We don’t talk about it enough. Toxic femininity isn’t just women being “catty” or “emotional.” It’s deeper than that. It shows up in quiet … Read more
Some people don’t actually care about you or your divorce.They just want the story. They ask you what’s going on. It’s not to help, but to collect facts.They want to compare, to gossip, to check in without actually showing up. I’ve learned that during divorce, people will violate your boundaries if they can.They’ll say, “I’m … Read more
Growing up my mom worked a 9-to-5. That meant she had weekends off. She had evenings free. Sometimes she could come home, take her bra off, put her feet up, and just be herself. Back then, there was a line between work and the rest of your life. There was a start time, a stop … Read more
There is a story in the Bible where two women came before King Solomon. They both claimed to be the mother of the same baby. One of them had lost her child in the night. She laid her dead child beside the other woman and took the living baby as her own. The two women … Read more
Some friendships don’t end with a big fight. They just fade, and honestly, that’s okay. Life can get busy. You get married, you have kids, you go through things that change how you think and what your priorities are.One day, you realize you’re not really in the same place as you were before, and neither … Read more
You thought by now you’d have it all together,But life doesn’t always follow your plans.You’ve started over more than you remember,Still showing up with steady, shaky hands. You cleaned up messes nobody else saw,You made hard choices, even when it stung.You bit your tongue instead of breaking the law,You held your peace while folks just … Read more
Being self-aware is not about perfection. It is about knowing when you are the problem. It is knowing when your tone was sharp or your response was off before someone has to point it out. It is being able to say, “I was wrong,” without spiraling into shame or defensiveness. It is knowing when you … Read more
Not everybody has charisma. Charisma is a kind of shine. It’s natural magnetism.Some people walk into a room, and people just gravitate toward them.They’re witty, charming, and easy to like.They don’t always have to explain themselves.People want to help them and want to believe in them. That’s not all of us. Some people have to … Read more
*Photo via @anandalewis on Instagram. Cropped for tribute purposes. Used in accordance with fair use.* I remember growing up watching Ananda Lewis on MTV. I watched her interview legends and shift culture. She was on our screens, but she also helped influence what we cared about way before social media influencers existed. When someone passes … Read more